Reconciliation and Return Lover Magic Spells
I would say 9 out of 10 of folks contacting me about magic spells are looking for workings to bring back a lost lover; and I would say 9 of those 10 have already waited too long or otherwise made messes to the point where magic is no longer a good option to help them.
For a while I was paying attention to stories of people who succeeded in bringing back their lost lovers with magic spells. I noticed initially a lot of people seemed to have performed the spells themselves, and at first thought that was what made the difference. Over time, however, I met a few people who'd had luck by hiring professional spells, and I even succeeded at several hired cases of my own. That's when I started to realize what the real factor was -- the people who succeeded were performing their spells right away, either by immediately hiring a professional to cast a spell, or by immediately performing a spell on their own. The folks who waited more than about 2 - 4 weeks usually never had luck.
Now, on that realization I began to always keep at hand Reconciliation Magic Spell Supplies whether or not I was in a relationship, just in case I should ever need it so I would be able to at right away. The question is left though -- what to do if it's already too late for magic?
A client of mine who had spent a small fortune on books about how to (non-magically) win back an ex-lover did me the favor of sharing the information that was given in all the books (the 'magic formula' was pretty much the same in all of them.) This tactic is:
1. Do not initiate contact with the target, and if contact can be avoided altogether that is best. This should go on for 1 - 2 months, after which you can begin to gradually reestablish communication.
2. Work on improving yourself.
3. Do not be needy, depressed, nagging, obsessive or otherwise negative.
4. When contacting your ex-lover, only speak of positive, happy things, and avoid bringing up the past.
Steps 1 and 3 are frequently violated immediately and repeatedly by distraught lovers. If you are guilty of committing these for an extended period it will be a lot harder for things to cool down enough to reestablish contact under favorable conditions. Stop contact at once. Do not fear that your lover will "forget about you" -- that's exactly what you want. Giving them time to forget bad associations and to start missing you is to your greatest advantage.
Of course, identifying what went wrong in the relationship first time around is also to your advantage -- it's a frequent problem that even when (magic or no magic) people are brought together again after a breakup, the same problems remain and eventually the pair just break up again.
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REAL, GENUINE, AUTHENTIC LOVE SPELLS THAT WORK
DO NOT DELAY! In matters of love, delays are usually detrimental to the case!
DO NOT PUT OFF YOUR LOVE SPELL OR WAIT TO "SAVE UP" --
experience has shown that a minor spell cast in a timely manner can be much more effective and more successful than a large scale spell being cast too late.
BRINGING BACK A LOST LOVER
Spells to return a lost love are probably the most commonly requested spell purpose at Spellcaster's Source/Hoodoo Online. Because of this, we have much expertise on the matter! In my experience, the number one thing that makes the most difference is acting quickly. I can guarantee that the longer you put off having a return lover spellcast done for your case, the more difficulty there is going to be in ever succeeding to bring back your ex. Yes -- the longer you wait, the harder it is to bring someone back. It is a sad truth. But acting with speed and determination can make all the difference! If your breakup has been very recent, hurry and get jump on the situation with a spell. If your breakup happened a long time ago (months or even years) you will probably need to cast the spell several times over and over on a regular basis -- and unless you've stayed in touch with your ex on friendly terms, it still might not work to satisfaction.
Practical Advice To Win Back an Ex
A client of mine, who had spent a small fortune on books about how to win back an ex-lover, did me the favor of sharing the information that was given. This practical, non-magical advice can be important as any spell you'll try.
1. Do not initiate contact with the target, and if contact can be avoided altogether that is best. This should go on for 1 - 2 months, after which you can begin to gradually reestablish communication.
2.Work on improving yourself.
3. Do not be needy, depressed, nagging, obsessive or otherwise negative.
4. When contacting your ex-lover, only speak of positive, happy things, and avoid bringing up the past.
Of course, identifying what went wrong in the relationship first time around is also to your advantage -- it's a frequent problem that even when (magic or no magic) people are brought together again after a breakup, the same problems remain and eventually the pair just break up again.In a previous post, we explained the importance of clear thinking and swift action whenever a person wants to use magic to reconcile with a lover (or, honestly, even if you don't plan to use magic but still want to reconcile.) In case of such emergencies, I offer the following to help you stay ready.
STEP 1: Healing.
This is both a de-stressing and also negativity-cleansing act. It will help you recover yourself so that you'll be at your best once the real love magic begins. This is a simple recipe for a Healing Herb Bath taken from Scott Cunningham's recipe book:
3 parts rosemary
2 parts lavender
2 parts rose
1 part peppermint
1 part cinnamon
(Note: I also like to add some rue to this bath, but if it's not available don't worry about it and stick to the original recipe.)
Simply tie up the herbs in a cheesecloth or a large coffee filter, and add them to the tub while it fills with hot water. You can also, alternately, steep the herbs in a large pot, strain them, and add this liquid to your bath. Myself, I like to keep things simple.
Whatever you do to add the infusion, get into the tub and soak for a time, ensuring that you immerse your whole body including your head and hair. How long you should remain in the water varies person to person, but most people recommend you stay for at least 5 minutes. I like to stay 30 minutes when it comes to magical baths. When you first get into the water, concentrate earnestly on releasing all the hurt and bad feelings in you, and undoing any physical damage which events may have caused (people have been known to have stress-induced heart attacks after losing a loved on, not to mention the more common anxiety attacks and depression that can also follow such events.) You may scrub yourself in the bath with a washcloth or body brush, but DO NOT USE SOAP IN THIS BATH as there might be conflicting odors or energies. Consider the focus of this bath to be wholly spiritual, not physical. Baths are very powerful magic when done correctly, and should be taken seriously.
You can read some more information about spiritual baths in this post.
Step 2: Mental preparation.
Many people are experienced at meditation or other means of clearing their mind. Many other people are not. Mint is a well-known ingredient for promoting mental clarity, and it may be beneficial if you can drink mint teas and burn mint incense or diffuse essential oils during this period. It is also an uncrossing ingredient, and if you think that someone may have done malicious work to ruin your relationship, this can also help ease things.
At this point, you've really got to consider whether this is going to be worth it. Lots of people who start out feeling sure this is the route for them give up after a few weeks because it's just too much sacrifice. Be sure of yourself.
Step 3: Spells.
If the breakup has been very recent, as in hours or a few days, it's my observation any Return Lover type spell can do the job -- a sudden rush of affection or loneliness can be enough to drive them back if it's only been a short time. This is a Phase 1 type reconciliation. If it's been longer, you're in Phase 2 and you may have to start focusing on the particular problem that drove your loved one away: if they find they can live happily without you, it gets harder and harder to convince them that they'd be more happy with you. You really have to demonstrate major changes to attract them again.
Furthermore, if you're in Phase 2, what's upcoming it likely to be a lot of give-give-give while receiving almost nothing in return. Remember: they're not begging to come back. Your lover owes you nothing, and is focused now on their own concerns. Odds are they are not going to feel appreciative of your "effort" to keep alive a relationship they're done with, so don't expect them to return and suddenly work twice as hard to keep the romance going. This is all going to be on your shoulders. Be forewarned!
This simple spell for calling back a lover comes courtesy of Jim Haskins' Voodoo and Hoodoo book:
"Take his or her photograph and place it face down on a table. Place a red candle on top of it. Burn red candles on it three hours in the evening and three hours in the morning for six days. Turn the picture face up and continue the candle burning ritual for three more days. This will bring the person back."
Of course, if you're in Phase 2 you may need something more complex and specific.
STEP 1: Healing.
This is both a de-stressing and also negativity-cleansing act. It will help you recover yourself so that you'll be at your best once the real love magic begins. This is a simple recipe for a Healing Herb Bath taken from Scott Cunningham's recipe book:
3 parts rosemary
2 parts lavender
2 parts rose
1 part peppermint
1 part cinnamon
(Note: I also like to add some rue to this bath, but if it's not available don't worry about it and stick to the original recipe.)
Simply tie up the herbs in a cheesecloth or a large coffee filter, and add them to the tub while it fills with hot water. You can also, alternately, steep the herbs in a large pot, strain them, and add this liquid to your bath. Myself, I like to keep things simple.
Whatever you do to add the infusion, get into the tub and soak for a time, ensuring that you immerse your whole body including your head and hair. How long you should remain in the water varies person to person, but most people recommend you stay for at least 5 minutes. I like to stay 30 minutes when it comes to magical baths. When you first get into the water, concentrate earnestly on releasing all the hurt and bad feelings in you, and undoing any physical damage which events may have caused (people have been known to have stress-induced heart attacks after losing a loved on, not to mention the more common anxiety attacks and depression that can also follow such events.) You may scrub yourself in the bath with a washcloth or body brush, but DO NOT USE SOAP IN THIS BATH as there might be conflicting odors or energies. Consider the focus of this bath to be wholly spiritual, not physical. Baths are very powerful magic when done correctly, and should be taken seriously.
You can read some more information about spiritual baths in this post.
Step 2: Mental preparation.
Many people are experienced at meditation or other means of clearing their mind. Many other people are not. Mint is a well-known ingredient for promoting mental clarity, and it may be beneficial if you can drink mint teas and burn mint incense or diffuse essential oils during this period. It is also an uncrossing ingredient, and if you think that someone may have done malicious work to ruin your relationship, this can also help ease things.
At this point, you've really got to consider whether this is going to be worth it. Lots of people who start out feeling sure this is the route for them give up after a few weeks because it's just too much sacrifice. Be sure of yourself.
Step 3: Spells.
If the breakup has been very recent, as in hours or a few days, it's my observation any Return Lover type spell can do the job -- a sudden rush of affection or loneliness can be enough to drive them back if it's only been a short time. This is a Phase 1 type reconciliation. If it's been longer, you're in Phase 2 and you may have to start focusing on the particular problem that drove your loved one away: if they find they can live happily without you, it gets harder and harder to convince them that they'd be more happy with you. You really have to demonstrate major changes to attract them again.
Furthermore, if you're in Phase 2, what's upcoming it likely to be a lot of give-give-give while receiving almost nothing in return. Remember: they're not begging to come back. Your lover owes you nothing, and is focused now on their own concerns. Odds are they are not going to feel appreciative of your "effort" to keep alive a relationship they're done with, so don't expect them to return and suddenly work twice as hard to keep the romance going. This is all going to be on your shoulders. Be forewarned!
This simple spell for calling back a lover comes courtesy of Jim Haskins' Voodoo and Hoodoo book:
"Take his or her photograph and place it face down on a table. Place a red candle on top of it. Burn red candles on it three hours in the evening and three hours in the morning for six days. Turn the picture face up and continue the candle burning ritual for three more days. This will bring the person back."
Of course, if you're in Phase 2 you may need something more complex and specific.
There is, however, a tradition which says that a black cat bone is guaranteed to bring back your lover. Find out more about Black Cat Hoodoo Spells here.
Step 4: Maintenance OR Recovery.
Step 3 brings two possibilities: success or failure. Eventually the point will come when you feel you've reached one or the other.
If you have failed and are sure there is no more hope, but still find yourself clinging to the object of your affection even though you know it's useless, and have decided it's for the best to move on, you might benefit from the following spell courtesy of Gillian Kemp in her Love Magic Book:
"Using a pin, inscribe a white candle with your name. On blue paper in blue ink, write the name of the one you wish to depart from. Place the paper on a saucer and pour melted wax over the person's name. Pierce the name with a pin and bury the pin and paper outdoors with three garlic cloves to exorcise him or her from our life. Alternately, use an indoor pot of soil and throw the soil containing the paper away after a few days. Allow the candle to burn down past the inscription before snuffing it out."
If you have succeeded and brought back the lover you were seeking, it's advisable to secure the relationship to avoid further mishaps. It's actually common that a relationship which was in turmoil before doesn't last even after a reconciliation succeeds, because the old troubles remain and are often burdened even further by new resentments caused by the period of separation. Anna Riva in her book Golden Secrets of Mystic Oils recommends the following spell:
"To keep a loved one true, anoint a red candle with a mixture of Love and Controlling oils. Beneath the candle place a square of parchment on which you have written your own and your lover's name. After sunset, burn some Fire of Love incense, and light the candle. Burn for ten minutes. Repeat the ritual each evening until your love is secure."
Only you can say how much work your relationship is worth. Some romances flow smoothly, others take constant effort. Whatever your case may be, it is hoped this information will be of help to you.
Step 4: Maintenance OR Recovery.
Step 3 brings two possibilities: success or failure. Eventually the point will come when you feel you've reached one or the other.
If you have failed and are sure there is no more hope, but still find yourself clinging to the object of your affection even though you know it's useless, and have decided it's for the best to move on, you might benefit from the following spell courtesy of Gillian Kemp in her Love Magic Book:
"Using a pin, inscribe a white candle with your name. On blue paper in blue ink, write the name of the one you wish to depart from. Place the paper on a saucer and pour melted wax over the person's name. Pierce the name with a pin and bury the pin and paper outdoors with three garlic cloves to exorcise him or her from our life. Alternately, use an indoor pot of soil and throw the soil containing the paper away after a few days. Allow the candle to burn down past the inscription before snuffing it out."
If you have succeeded and brought back the lover you were seeking, it's advisable to secure the relationship to avoid further mishaps. It's actually common that a relationship which was in turmoil before doesn't last even after a reconciliation succeeds, because the old troubles remain and are often burdened even further by new resentments caused by the period of separation. Anna Riva in her book Golden Secrets of Mystic Oils recommends the following spell:
"To keep a loved one true, anoint a red candle with a mixture of Love and Controlling oils. Beneath the candle place a square of parchment on which you have written your own and your lover's name. After sunset, burn some Fire of Love incense, and light the candle. Burn for ten minutes. Repeat the ritual each evening until your love is secure."
Only you can say how much work your relationship is worth. Some romances flow smoothly, others take constant effort. Whatever your case may be, it is hoped this information will be of help to you.
Some people looking to return a lover might wonder if there is a difference between different hoodoo formulas with names like Lover Return, Reconciliation, Return to Me, Draw Back, etc.
The fact is, many manufacturers of hoodoo products might have little to no difference between these types of mixtures, even within the same company. I know for a fact there are some makers who sell the same product with different labels as Bring Back Love, Stay With Me, Don't Leave Me, and dozens of other names.
So, the simple answer is that in many cases there actually might be no difference at all.
Ideally, however, a blend like Reconciliation should put more emphasis on healing and regaining trust and understanding. One could even use it just to heal a rift between friends, not just as a love-drawing mix. Meanwhile, mixtures like Return to Me, Bring Back Love, Draw Back, etc. are supposed to have a bit more of a commanding influence added to them to help compel the ex-lover back. Using a formula like Reconciliation or any love drawing mix like Come to Me combined with a mixture like Command and Compel would be equal.